Are you really happy with YOU?

Are you finding yourself feeling good about your life, the people in it or your circumstances?  If no is the answer for any reason, then a self-check is in order!  I’ve always talked about how important gratitude is for manifesting your heart’s desire but what if you really don’t like the skin you are in?  What then?

Well I’m not one to try to tell anyone how to be something they’re not.  Because I know all too well how futile that really is in the end.  But what I can share with you is that it takes time and practice to become happy with yourself and it’s not the quick fix that some portray it to be or an overnight sorta thing.  In order to get there, one must have some sensibility about this process in understanding that first, it’s indeed a process.  It is a process of self-discovery, self-analysis, acceptance, forgiveness and unconditional love.  Then and only then  can you take it step by step, thought by thought, moment by moment in constructing this “new you” that you can be proud of and happy with.  As I’ve always said, at the end of the day – you have to live with you, what you did and choose to do.  So why not start out feeling good and at peace about it.

If you are not happy then the first thing on the agenda is that YOU need to do something about it!  Not your Momma, Daddy, Husband or Wife, Kids, Neighbors, Spiritual Advisor or Jenny Craig.  Now, don’t get me wrong, because any of the above formentioned can be extremely beneficial or supportive to you.  Hell, I like that Jenny Craig program personally.  However, my point is that YOU are the one who has the power and control to change any circumstance, situation or decision that YOU make.  You can’t control anyone EVER, not the banks, not the people around you and so on and so on.  And if you are “seemingly” in that position of controlling others now, I can promise you it’s only temporary.  You can only control YOU.

Loving oneself can be one of the hardest things to do from a position of balance (no ego trips), confidence and self-understanding.  Why do I say this?  Because I see it all the time with folks.  For one, I know from experience.  And two, because it’s natural to NOT LIKE something about ourselves initially.  But we learn to fully embrace ourselves with FULL ACCEPTANCE.  We can easily lie to ourselves, can’t we?  And oh the lies we tell ourselves and everybody else who would buy what we couldn’t truly sell to ourselves in this regard.  But in the end, it’s how you really feel about yourself, what you do and how you do it which tells the true tale isn’t it?  Not what you’ve tried to convince yourself of.

Learn to embrace your uniqueness because you are truly that.  There is a saying that great minds think alike.  But what I know for sure that is truly unique about that statement is that no two great minds are exactly alike.  Diversity is a beautiful thing and we are amongst a wide variety of that with each other on this planet, in our creativeness, personalities, appearances, talents, tastes, etc.  Who wants to be exactly like someone else?  I know I don’t.  I like many of you appreciate those I can look up to and take some positive direction from but I know and understand that I am one of a kind, just as you are one of a kind.  We all are here to make what’s unique about our individual selves more beautiful to ourselves with the opportunity to strive beyond measure if we so choose.  No need to keep up with the Jones’, Smith’s, or the likes.  Do YOU and be the best at it!   There are tons of role models and people who have made great contributions to society, humanity, the planet, etc. But there isn’t another like YOU that can bring a different perspective, twist or approach to your life, your world but YOU.

Learn to love yourself, accept yourself, embrace your whole self and be proud of yourself.  From the little things that seem insignificant to the great things that make a difference.  You are here to be the best you can be.  By doing that, you have to experience some things that you don’t like to know the difference, to learn to accept them or to change them to what you do like.  Understand that no one is perfect but breathe in that realism and embrace it rather than hear it and then later judge yourself by it.

Embracing YOU is an ever changing process because you are always changing, stretching, evolving and growing.  So there will never be a one-way, one-view, etched in stone road map to the multidimensional self – called YOU!  So pick up your paintbrush and paint more of the beautiful self that you are, that you want to be and strive to grow into this new you while loving every morsel of experience along the way.

Here’s to YOU  – All that you are and to all that you will become!

Yours in Spirit,
Christmas