Not just where it’s wanted …

The look of love in the world today is drastically different from long ago. The true essence of love hasn’t changed, but how its demonstrated certainly has. Nowadays, love is more about lust, instant gratification, validation that you’re desirable or sometimes trying to prove you’re lovable. It’s confused with the offerings of false security and seems more ego driven and based on control.

What happened to LOVING someone just because?

That’s what I think real love is, loving and accepting someone as they are just because. Now for some of us who are working on ourselves, we do learn this eventually. Love meets you welcomingly where you are. Love isn’t just about chemical reactions science tells us that help us emotionally feel it. Obviously, those chemicals don’t control integrity and make one do the work required to grow into a more profound love with another individual. And they certainly aren’t responsible for your decision (daily) to show up in that relationship. That’s a choice that can be challenged with so much temptation and distractions out here today.

The thing is, many people have a flawed perception of genuine unconditional love. My opinion is that most want it but don’t understand it and don’t know how to give it. I’m basing this perspective on my own experiences and while working with people for many years. Unconditional love is just that … unconditional. Unfortunately, this isn’t taught to most people right from the start. Your grassroots, society, and upbringing get in there an mess that up for us all. Then we repeat the process and spread the “conditional love” on to others.

What you should do is love just because you love. There shouldn’t be strict stipulations and conditions you have to meet in order to give and receive love. You don’t love because it’s convenient or because it’s expected (although many try unsuccessfully to do it that way). You don’t love because it’s a financial benefit to force those emotions. You don’t love because you want a relationship to work so badly that you give it a go and hope for the best. I can go on about the reasons and ways people falsely attempt loving. In the end, these failed efforts usually having nothing to do with love and it shows.

Every relationship has a shelf-life, the difference between those who genuinely love is the quality of their experience. If you have ever had enough bad relationships or never experienced genuine love, then you have a template of what real love isn’t. Thinking you’re in love to find out what you had wasn’t even close can be a huge letdown. If you continuously repeat these experiences, then it creates emotional blocks. Although emotional pain is a rough road to ride, there is a rainbow behind the clouds. Your opportunity to learn what negative patterns, unhealthy habits, and beliefs you currently hold is staring you in the face.

SEE IT. EMBRACE IT. ACCEPT IT. HEAL IT.

Listen, we all have to learn our emotional reach and limits. We certainly are here to learn from our mistakes. Don’t ever let anyone shame you for your past mistakes because EVERYONE has a laundry list of them. I see it daily in my work with people. I understand why we are here and the importance of mistakes. But there is also the need to heal from these painful experiences and heed the messages they give you. What they are telling you is that change is necessary, you need to heal and restructure yourself and your approach to love. [bctt tweet=”I believe if you take the time to heal your emotions and your past, you will become your best Self.” username=””]

So if you are still on the road to finding love in its purest unconditional form, then I’d like to invite you on a journey of healing and rediscovery. If you are ready to do the inner work that brings you the ultimate love an ideal partner, then consider my course Love for Live 360: The Ultimate Relationship Readiness Program.

It’s a practical, step-by-step method that helps you heal emotionally from your past, empower you with confidence, prepare you to identify your needs accurately, and effectively attract the most compatible ideal partner who is looking for a long-term romantic relationship.